You’re Safe Here

That’s a phrase used so often lately. And for good reason.

In this world, I do believe we are all seeking after peace, safety, authenticity and the places where we can have all three! That’s where our “you’re safe here” chat comes in and we wanted to share what that phrase means to us!

Since we’ve become “Mary & Ronda” (and morphed into Michelle & Monica) and built this beautiful community around us, we’ve started to grow deeper with a handful of souls we call our “Framily”. On our Instagram page, our subscribers have the option to join in our secure chat called “you’re safe here” where you can develop friendships with people from all over the world, have monthly zoom calls with Michelle and I personally and you have the freedom and safety to be exactly as you are.

On our wedding day, I made a letterboard that says “Your arms feel more like home than any house ever did” and we still have it hanging in our bathroom, as our reminder every day that we are safe here, with each other, in our life, in our family and our home will never be four walls, but instead, two arms and a heartbeat.

THAT is what we are continuing to create here. A home. When I was finding myself and I lost everyone in my life when I came out, I found a “home” on Twitter, where some of those people are still my friends today! I needed the community that Michelle and I have created. I sought it and couldn’t find it. I needed to know I was enough, that I wasn’t a bad person, and that I had a place where I was safe.

Our story went viral and we fell into a place where we could create such a thing and I’ll forever be grateful for that. People come and go, subscribers can’t always pay, some friendships burn you, sometimes you realize you’re giving all of yourself to people who will just continue to take and take….but for the most part, these last 2 years have been the biggest joy for us. We are so grateful.

“You’re safe here” means:

No judgements
Who are we to judge you? We’ve all got a story, hurts, traumas, darkness, mistakes…we’re all doing the best we can to live this life and being a judgement-free zone makes it easier.

You can be true to yourself
So with no judgement, you’re free to be yourself. 100% apologetically YOU.

You can speak your truth
Maybe the authentic parts of you have had to be hidden for your whole life like me (found myself at age 28 after living a life that I was taught was “right”) so having a safe place to come out, speak your truths, share parts of you that you haven’t been able to share…this is a space for you.

You instantly have a Framily that’s loving and supportive
Our world-wide Framily is welcoming and kind and someone is always awake in a timezone to chat. Sometimes it’s hilarious, sometimes we’re talking about things that affect us all so deeply and the conversation helps others grow and see things differently. Sometimes it’s just fun to catch up, have notifications come across your screen and know you’re not alone.

You can ask questions and seek advice that can be trusted
One of the latest deep conversation topics we’ve had is how to navigate being raised Christian and coming out later as a lesbian. We’ve seen advice on dating, marriage, what shows to binge, what sports teams are superior, how to come out to family that won’t accept you…among so many other topics. It’s not all heavy, but it is all good for the soul.

All are welcome here
This includes you.

You matter here
100% true.

Hope to see you over there, we promise you’ll feel loved and apart of something greater.

“You’re Safe Here” shirts, among other designs are available in the shop!

Love and light,
Monica & Michelle